isittoolate - Sandi posted the link on my thread. It is on page 5.

Mr Bond -
Thank you for the info about Coach. I'm sorry to hear that. I truly would have liked to have bought him a beer.

I hear what you are saying and I have tried to commit myself to this path (GAL, Focus on Me, Detach, Drop the Rope) to the best of my ability. I guess I'm just not confident in it being successful. I try to have faith that by moving on our paths will cross again. But she is a passive person, who has no relationship with me whatsoever, who now has someone else, at a job she loves in which she travels to cities all over the world, I know she loves the kids, but she does have an expectation that others (her Mom/Dad or in desperate times Me) will pick up the pieces of her fast pace lifestyle. In my mind the most important piece may be her kidney transplant, subsequently going through this process with the OM. Furthermore, deepening their bond.

Of course, this could all be written off as guessing banter from a LBS.

Mentally, I understand that I don't have to know how the pieces fit together. It is just hard to be fully invested in a path without total confidence. At the end of the day, I do know the system works. And I know it makes me into a better father and person.


Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2
M - 8/2008
W is not happy - 1/2014
W wants D - 9/2014
W moved out - 11/2014
D filed - 1/23/2015
D'ed - 2/25/2015
Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015