Really though, I think we have to take a wait and see approach. Patience. I am letting him initiate because if I am the one that has to push for this, i will never trust it. I am going to be friendly and open and work on validation but I feel he needs to want it enough to take lead. If he doesn't want me enough, the marriage is not going to work out for me in the long run and I am better off knowing now.
This is exactly how I'm feeling right now too, Julie. I am gradually getting more comfortable with taking a hands off approach (both figuratively and literally!) so that there's room for her to drive, for a change. I need to see that she really wants me if this is ever going to work!
I'll try and find time to read up on your sitch, Julie. Thanks for reaching out.
Me: 39 W: 36 M: 8 yrs T: 10 yrs S: 7 W started coming out with the truth: 9/26/15 W finished coming out with the truth: 11/12/15 W started sleeping in guest BR: 11/13/2015
