Well she got served last thursday at her job. I can only imagine whats going through her mind. When my L txt your wife got served , my heart started pounding and anxiety started running through my body. I couldnt work after that, weird. She hasnt called me or anything , I doubt she will anyways. Thoughts are running through my head , what if what if what if this and that. I know is not good for me to over think it. This is my reality. I never imagined that after 1 year of marriage i would be in court with her on the next year. Crazy how life is. Holidsays are around the corner and i know this will be the most loneliest holiday i have ever experience . I hope everyone is doing good! Blessings to everyone here.
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in. What needs to happen now that she has been served papers regarding visitation and custody? Is there anyway your L can do something so you can see the girls for Christmas? On what grounds does she keep the girls from you all of the time?
I agree with the feedback you are getting from your online friends. Stay off FB and disable the calendar yourself if you don't want to see it.
I urge you to speak with a Divorce Busting Coach to help with these parenting issues.
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well , today my L is going to call my wife in order to see if she agrees to letting me see my daughters before christmas and not wait until my court date jan 6. I hope she still has some kindness in her heart and agrees. It's been 3 months and some weeks since i last saw my daughters. I need all the prayers I can! Hope everyone is having a great day today!
Angel, best of luck, I hope you get to see your children for Christmas. Your W's blackmail tactics and denial of visitation will look very bad on her in court. Unless she has real concerns about your behavior that she can back up, I don't see how she can defend this.
You may want to talk to your attorney about asking the court to order co-parenting classes. A request like that will show your spirit of cooperation and that you are open to learning. The court looks at which of the parents is better equipped to take care of them, but a big factor is also which parent is more able and willing to promote a good relationship with the other parent. A co-parenting class will teach those skills.
If the court does not give you at the very least shared custody, you can ask for a parental evaluation. Offer to pay for it, because that puts you in power of who is chosen to do the evaluation. A parental evaluation is a good tool if you suspect abuse or parental alienation on the part of one parent.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
well...my L gave her a call and requestd a visitation before christmas but w said she would have her L call my L instead. My L said she didnt want to provide her L name or number since she probably doesnt have one yet. My L told me the rules are cleared and she cant call her again since she stated she has a L and is in her right to say that. So she can basically lie right now and keep them until our court date jan6 and theres not a dang thing i can do about it. As hard as it was to accept this it didnt affect me because i wasnt hoping for the best.
In other good news, yesterday i went to the casinos for the first time in Louisianan. I had never been to a casino in my life. I played black jack the most, started off winning 100 but at the end of the day i lost 400 which was my limit haha. It was fun and well i was planning on losing that money anyway. Debating if i should go out and do some merengue/ salsa dancing tonight, kind of tired.
Hi Angel, I'm sorry your W is playing games with you and the children. She may be getting some advice from people at the shelter if she has told them that she is hiding from an abusive partner. However, if your L is any good, this will all come out in court. The judge is not going to look kindly at a woman playing games to keep the children from their father and other family during the holidays.
Do you have family that has normally spent time with your children? Have they approached your W to get to see them?
Did you discuss the parenting classes request and possible parental evaluation with your L? It can really go a long way to demonstrate to the judge that you are a reasonable person with the children's best interests in mind.
It is great to GAL and go out and have fun, but can I suggest that you maybe don't gamble (even with a limit and funds available) while W is going to do her best to make you look bad in court? I know it was probably a completely innocent past-time for you, but it's one of those things that can be twisted around.
Have you done anything to get child support calculated? I think another thing you can do to demonstrate your responsibility in court, is to get CS calculated based on 50/50 custody, add it up from the date W left, and set that aside in an account. That kind of thing might make the judge look at you very favorably.
If you are already supporting W and kids with a shared account so she has access to money, make sure you keep track of everything she has spent during the time she has been gone.
Christmas will be hard, I'm sure, but January 6th will be here before you know it. Spend the holidays with people who love you and care for you. Once court is over, you will hopefully be able to celebrate a belated Christmas with your girls, and the great thing is that they are too young to know the difference.
Best wishes!
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
