thanks, dazedboy. your observations make a lot of sense. having decided to rebuild our M using michele's dbing framework, i must confess to some initial discomfort at what can seem like manipulation. but you know, the results make the discomfort just fade away. especially if H is getting exactly what he wants. ok, review of today, and i promise to focus on just highlights
the good - i got home, H was there working, so i just sat near him relaxing in front of the telly. i let him initiate negotiation about dinner, came up about an hour after i got home. old me would have figured it out and let him agree so, he seemed to feel good about driving this, and i agreed to make some pasta AFTER he finished work. sooo, he had to close up laptop and come over to kitchen and chat while i cooked - this was inspired by KAW's comments a couple fo days ago. - as a result, we engaged a LOT more during preparation and dinner itself. a grand result. i'm amazed. just a little bit of planning.
the bad - nothing really, except my quiet obsessing about the token OW gave him which he carries around on his keyring
H also asked when my next session with coach was - he knows i had one, but not the organization. he wants me to ask some questions on his behalf, so i just suggested it may not be appropriate. interesting request though.
i must say this journaling is really helping me stay focused. i'm looking forward to graduating from some of my current goals at the end of this week, and developing more refined ones. thanks everyone, for being here. hugs slowly
ok, review of today, and i promise to focus on just highlights 
so, he seemed to feel good about driving this, and i agreed to make some pasta AFTER he finished work. sooo, he had to close up laptop and come over to kitchen and chat while i cooked - this was inspired by KAW's comments a couple fo days ago. 
