Dear Lou, If it really was a fun fluffy good life, they would be together still, no? She's a mess and looking to stay in a dysfunctional relationship because that's what her "normal" is ... that's why she wants him back. She's flailing about trying to cling to anything. That's my read, anyway.
I don't think men and women look at these things the same way. Can you maybe let it go for today, not forever? What I mean is, you guys have so much more to work through, this is a bit of a distraction from the bigger things, no? I might be totally off base here, and hope I'm not overstepping ... I know these things are hurtful and I completely see your point of view and actually agree with it, but want to remind you to focus on the end goal/big picture. There will be time a plenty to buy him a new favorite jumper once he's finished baking in the MLC oven and come out the other side, right? Can you maybe put this on the back burner for now without feeling like you're compromising yourself? Am I making any sense? xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
