Hi BoobyB. I think the newcomers section gets he most posts For me , the working on you part has to be primarily for you If your happy with the BobbyB version that you are then changing for W will not be good for you in the long run and make it almost impossible for you to keep to the changes.
If you think the improved BobbyB is the one for you then that's who you should want to be regardless of Ws views A possible upside of being the new you is W may be interested
As for how W will see these changes , then that's again sort of immaterial because they are for you.
I think we all come on here to fix our Ms and we are taught first we have to fix us
The Ms are secondary because we can't make , guilt or otherwise control anyone else. And the thing is , we can make our improvements , we can become someone only a fool would leave and still be without our partners
As a very non vet I would advise improve you for you and see what happens
