I'm probably coming off as an ass, but I really don't care right now. Is that wrong?
It simply doesn't matter. You're doing good. Keep up the good work.
Agreed. It doesn't matter anymore. You're not getting anywhere worrying about her. It's time, D. How much of that rope is still in your hand? I don't see how you're coming off as an ass, though. You're being distant. That's not hateful. When you're purposefully rude? Then you're being an ass.
I foretell that she will likely attempt to imply you're being mean so you go back to being the way she wants. Don't listen because you're dropping the rope. Calm and Strong. Right?