Here is my first draft of my No Contact letter...PLEASE feel free to contribute. I have one chance to get this right.
"H, I'm really sorry. I need to institute a No Contact rule between us. Your actions are literally breaking my heart. I realized the last time I tried to talk to you about it, I was basically begging you to have some integrity.
Integrity is something you either have, or don't have. A person willing to cause such emotional harm to the children he professes to love, while attempting to throw their ill mother out to the curb so that he can carry on an affair in peace? That is not even in the running for integrity.
I want no contact with you. If you need to contact me for any reason, you can send a message via e-mail. If there is an emergency, you can have one of the kids get hold of me. I will do my best to stay out of your sight from now on. You've lost all rights to me.
Until you end your affair and sincerely apologize for all the harm you've caused, I have no desire to see you or speak with you. I am committed to doing whatever we need in order to help our children be happy adults, short of putting up with such blatant disrespect and contempt from you. I'm willing to seek counseling and work on the marriage, but only if it's between the two of us, alone. I have zero interest in an open marriage.
You'd prefer to pretend the children will be fine. I intend to protect both them and myself to the best of my ability. I'm sorry you don't love them enough to be a man of character. I love them enough to change in the ways they need from me, and am working to do so.
