Sandi2 you are not blowing my mind I understand exactly what you are saying about how she wants to feel how she wants to be treated ....I suppose the big question is is it too late for her to believe in me and my changes ...I do remember when we first got together she did feel special she had a glow she radiated love towards me and over time this was erroaded away by my actions.

People talk a lot about the 189s

I was controlling I gues to some degree we all can be butt this is not about her it is about me and my changes.
I did not see my actions as smothering but on reading the post on loving over smothering I can see how I was

My W deserves to feel loved with no expectations from me the most important things in Her life are her children ...our children.

Question
how do I get the balance between showing my W caring loving actions without persueing her or making her feel that I expect anything ....if she feels smothered to give her the space she needs ....to listen to what she is saying.

I have been getting this so wrong I have been trying to make things better with my W when I need to be strengthening the love between me and my children

I have three children that love me and I have one that does not want my love I have one child that feels let down by her daddy I need to find her love language and try and rebuild a relationship with my eldest daughter











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Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.