Sandi2 I do understand what you are saying and I know and can see what you mean about the fact that on the surface changes are not what makes the difference
Max also hit it as well and the last two posts I will read a few times and will add theese to my saved posts
I am starting to understand
Thank you both and RD your posts and Fogg Pho Azzork to name just a few you are starting to get through to me
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.