tl2 - that's what it feels like to me. Yet --- yet ---- I can't help but hope that giving him what he wants (affection, sex, etc) will somehow bring him back to me. In regards to your questions - No, no, no, and no.
He keeps saying how he wants us to be "friends" for the sake of our children. He wants us to help each other heal from the pain, but I cannot for the life of me figure out what the hell that means? I feel like he's the one causing me this pain, yet he wants to be there for me during the process?? I don't know how to act with him since I am the one that had the affair in the first place. I almost feel obligated to help him heal.
pho, I've asked him to give our marriage six months so we can see if individual and couples counseling can help him/us to heal, but he said no.
As for myself, I've done an outpatient intensive and was diagnosed with bipolar 2 and sex and love addiction. I've been working on myself extensively in counseling and will start attending SLAA meetings next week. I ended the affair right before I told him about it and have had no contact with the OM since. Nor do I have any desire to do so. I've deactivated my FB account and basically told him I am willing to do anything to save our marriage. His response? "I just don't feel safe with you and you damaged my soul."
So....overwhelmed, sad, angry. I'm afraid I'm going to be bitter.
Last edited by Klassic; 12/14/1512:52 AM.
Me 35 H 45 M 12 T 13 S16, S11, D7, D5 IDTB (I dropped the bomb) 9/30/15
