You are certainly entitled to your opinion. I disagree that the wayward wife is motivated by guilt. She is motivated by selfishness! If it does not benefit her in some way......she isn't interested.
I have said so much about the whole "staying friends" topic that I am hesitant to comment again........other than to say it's not out of guilt and I don't really see it being out of justification. It's more about holding onto that power of control/manipulation over his life, and keeping one foot connected.........just because.
Let me say this, again, about the guilt factor. The WW does not feel guilt at this point. Not like you want to think she does. She feels completely justified.......not guilty. That is why it is very difficult for a WW to reach the point of remorse. She may agree to go back into the M and put everything behind them.........but remorse? Very, very difficult and takes a long time for her to get there.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
