Newbie here - unsure of what to do

[Vanilla]

I have been thinking on this. I really, really, really like sex and have a good sex drive. So when I get the rare opportunity with H I go for it, but lately it leaves me feeling an emotional void because 1- there is no ILY, and 2- no good kissing. So do I just say no until I get those things? Keep in mind if I hold out I may never get some again as long as I am M to H.

I don't want to ask for an ILY because that seems like I am playing games. I can ask for the kissing because that is a physical thing, I have asked for it during and he puts a little more into it but not to the degree that I want. So if the opportunity arises, what can say without sounding pathetic or manipulative? Do I just stfu?

Frankly I would just tell him.

H, I really really really like having ML with you and am thinking we should ML more often. I am like many women finding foreplay is important to switching on my desire and a very important part of that for me is kissing. So kissing and ML are important to my desire, can you help me with this by kissing more? If you can then that will increase our ML.

I am sure others have better words!

V