Sandi,

Yes, today has been a better day. You're right, we both had an addiction, we're both having tough minutes/hours/days because of the whithdrawls. I apologized for putting pressure on her to get to fixing the M. She's having a difficult time letting go of 15 years of built-up anger and hurt.

She keeps saying that I have a built-in excuse because of the addiction; I let her know I'm the one at fault for not putting her first for 15 years, and now I know it will take longer than I expected. She's starting to understand just how hurt I am because of the PA 3 years ago, and the EA a month and a half ago.

So, trumpet is back to working on himself, and making sure when the W wants to talk, I'm here. We need to be friends first before we can be spouses.


M46, EXWW46
M15 T17
D20, S19, D13
M - Addiction since 1998
W EA/PA #1 2013/2014
W EA #2 June 2015...
BD 1 Big D talk 9/15
BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15
Served D 1/22/16
Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)