Keeping the door cracked

[beckyb]

Yesterday was very difficult, being home all day while H was downstairs packing his stuff. However, I survived and some things went well. He saw lots of PMA and GAL. I was friendly. I was baking and visiting with a friend. He could see that I was decorating for a party.

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[*]For the first time he ask a question about what I was doing. He ask if I was getting ready for a party.
He saw two of my/his friends yesterday and they both hugged him.
I casually gave him an airplane calendar I knew he would like. I'm worried I've been too detached. My DB coach reminded me to lovingly detach. This was a step.
For the first time he ask a question about what I was doing. He ask if I was getting ready for a party.
He saw two of my/his friends yesterday and they both hugged him.
Finally, and this probably projecting, when he left he looked a little bit regretful.

I'm very conflicted about trying to get the settlement proposal to H now that it is so close to Christmas. There is a scheduled attorney conference on Jan. 11 anyway. The risk is not getting an agreement in time to list the house in mid-February. I think I'm going to try to get in touch with my attorney and just lay out exactly how I feel and see what he says.