So..towards peace and happiness..

[mleigh4]

Sotto, in reference to your last statement above. I am in that stage now. It has been over 2 years since BD. My "surface" love for H is very little. I don't feel very attracted to him, I don't miss him most time, I don't have a whole lot of respect for him....but something keeps me standing. For myself, I feel a deep and different love for H, I am not sure if that is what keeps me holding on. Or if it my stubbornness, my lack of being able to give up, and my respect and faith in marriage.

That is my own stuff to figure out. I feel like the vets say, that I am getting closer to that point where the decision of whether we stay married or not will be mine.

It takes time, I am sure it is different for us all. You are doing all the right things and an inspiration to many here.