SciDad, I hope you had a good night. You are describing my life as well. Climbing into bed with with someone who despises me is not fun. Trying to keep busy and positive while my H who I still somehow love with my entire heart is trying to decide if I am worth hanging around for or not is crushing.
But then there are the kids, the house, the things you mentioned. There are moments of joy that sneak in unexpectedly, especially with kids around. And music is helpful. I wish you a peaceful Sunday SciDad, I know you are in my geographic area and its supposed to be in the 70's today. At least by me, sorry if you aren't so lucky. I am going to enjoy it while I can.