Letting go of the child inside

[ATPeace]

RD

I am up to over 900 posts and yet I still feel that I do not know what I shold be doing this sounds so pathetic

Ok so let me ask something if I may The thing that is going through my head at the moment is not just that my W has asked to separate it is what is going to happen with regard the children.

Just today I was going to be taking me little boy to his weekend activity and at the last moment he said he wanted mummy to take him and he starts getting upset so I said how about mummy and daddy both take you so we can both go and watch you ....he said yes but my wife clearly did not really want us both to go..

So this got me thinking about when we divorce and are living apart how I know we really do not want to get child care matters decided by the courts...we have to sort this together....What if the children are ment to be coming to mine and they start crying say no I do not want to go ....do I just each and every time back down and just drive off in my own back to my house without my children

Being the mummy she has been arround so much more than I have because of my work she is arround after school and at weekends and the children are closer to her because of this.

So I have right now the gift of time but this is running out day by day and this is going to go on for ever with the children my youngest is two and the one that got upset is eleven.

I am at the point where I want to try and reason with my W negotiate some sort of deal ...how crazy does that sound ?

I stand that chance of loosing everything I realise just what is at stake