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Mutatio

You share love with S, it is enduring, interests change, love for your children is carried all their lives. That is something really shared.

How do you forgive yourself?

The first step is acceptance. For me I didn't forgive myself until I had atoned to all including myself. One of those we atone to is ourself, that was difficult as to blame V was easy to do and comfortable.

I can tell you what I did if that helps, it was hard work and most of it is on my threads and I can point you to the places. The most important thing is extreme self care. I really mean extreme as in every way, from the physiology up. I had a deliberate strategy.

My thinking is that the most important aspect for Mutatio is your resistance to forgiveness I really believe so.

I am going to ask you to examine in more depth what role not forgiving yourself is serving you?

I have a reason for asking, I want us to identify the parts of you that need forgiveness. We are all made up of behaviours that emerge, not in a multi personality way but as facits of ourselves. I call that part of me, screaming banshee. The one that abuses, I call the one that demeans me as Plain Vanilla and the hurt child that wants to stay hurt as funny bunny. It isn't all of me that wants healing there are some terrific parts too such as brain box and foxy.

Jellyb has her sweet sadness.

To me your resistant part is hanging on to the guilt and shame, it does so because it does something for you. In this model in order to release the block to get shift, which will keep tumbling and more and more will come. You are ready to shift and grow, I really believe so. Of course the resistant part is resisting and blocking it's the role it plays, it won't want to change until the message is understood.

The more you push that resistance to forgive the more the part that it serves pushes back. So let's understand this, where does the hurt come from and where in the body is it located?

My resources here are NLP and in particular Genie La borde and Influencing with Integrity. Now heavily influenced by Inside Out!

This can also be enjoyable, when shift happens we begin to glow as the care and relaxation takes us over. It is an uplifting experience. The higher spirit in action.

V