Mutatio

I would ask how is not forgiving yourself serving you?

Behaviour has a purpose, lack of it also has a purpose.

I always operate from the stance that what someone does serves them, makes sense, otherwise they wouldn't do as they do.

Could it be that staying in a place of mental self flaggelation holds you static?

I am reframing your resistance to change and forgiveness for you.

You say you must do x or y and put your kids forward as the reason. Could you change that to a choice? I choose to do x or y. It will make you less resistant to your choice.

I am now about to give a rare 4x4, Mutatio in no way do we ever weigh one parent against another on the scales of love. Just as parents relate to each child differently so children relate to each parent. Doesn't mean less love or connection. You know this so I am reminding you. Oh and also hugs even boys need hugs and even prickly shy boys need hugs (I mean you!).

As always

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 12/13/15 02:56 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW