I wasn't sure when the divorce would be final, but I found out from my 15 year old daughter about a month ago. She informed me that her mom had told her it became final on October 9th. I had no idea and thought we were still married.
I ran into ExW a few days later at the tire store. She changed her story from what she told me before when we sat down together and talked. She claimed that she never said she had manipulated a lot of people in order to get her way. She claims that what she said was that she had manipulated people in her family to get out of family events because she knew I didn't want to go. The crazy-making stories never end. She also said that her son's wife to be is going to screw up his life. He is getting married in two weeks and she will not be attending. He told her several months ago that if she didn't stop being mean to people, her would not be invited. It makes me sad for her that she will not be attending because she has chosen to be the victim and claim she wasn't invited and that he dis-owned her instead of taking responsibility for her own actions and being the adult instead of putting it on him.
As far as the kids go, they both seem to be having issues. My son who just turned 17 this week and is still home-schooled, does not want to interact with anyone except for a couple of his friends. My daughter is struggling in school, has relationship issues and has expressed to me that she is upset that we are divorced, but ExW claims that the kids wanted this to happen.'
She is still living with her parents after more than a year, but claims she will be moving into an apartment next month, but wants to make sure my job is stable first (it is a temp job), as she will have to move back in with them if I lose my job and am not able to support her financially.
I have been going to therapy weekly and am working on myself, but am still distraught over the break-up of the family.
