Sorry for your sitch, Strongr. All you can do is respect yourself and act respectfully to others. Nothing you can do about what she says and does at all.
When I hit these situations, I read the Bible (not everybody's thing) and also Kipling's poem, "If"...which begins with something like, "If you can keep your head when those around you are losing theirs and blaming it on you..."
It's hard I know. But it's your thoughts and actions...your decisions...as well as time that will ultimately make you feel better about yourself. Not what she says or does.
