WW is onboard with trying to save the M

[trumpet]

JGuy, getting caught up on your sitch.

I'm feeling for you. My need for emotional connection from my W is at an all-time high, and her need for me is at an all-time low.

Lots of parrallels with me - my wife had PA, 2 years later had EA, and I had a porn addiction throughout the 15 year marriage. I'm getting IC for the addiction, and over 6 weeks have come to realize I was using it to replace the emotional/physical affection my wife can't/won't/didn't give. She replaced her anger with me with another man...

So, I'm struggling with now having no coping mechanism for having a wife who is emotionally cold/distant, and we have had no sex for 3 years. She considers it 'icky' and something she might not ever do again - she says she just doesn't need it.

I come from a Christian background, but I don't expect everyone to do what I'm trying to do... save the marriage, even if I will never have the emotional and physical needs met.

What do you want to do? Does she feel the same way?