[LoisB]

Bright, it wasn't just the mortgage... I used the word parasite, mainly, because of how this man seemed to act entitled to your help thru this... For years. I know you have chosen to help and that's really kind of you... As your friend, though, I'm angry and I'm wondering why you aren't MORE ANGRY?

You have been nothing but kind and helpful and given him space. I'm not saying be an angry B... But... Where's the anger?

in my case, I'm walking out of the tunnel. My own tunnel. I'm seeing sunlight finally since this started in Jan. 2012.

Feeling FREE :-)

And, one thing I see over and over on here... Few women embrace the anger.

ANGER is a stage in the grieving process. During the D proceedings, IMHO, it's the time to draw on that anger to motivate yourself to get a fair deal. Use It!

I don't regret a single instance of my anger. My soul was somewhat cleansed by it. Anger is, I think, the healthy way of declaring, "I'm valuable and didn't deserve this. I've been treated unfairly and deserve better."

I sometimes think this is symptom of being female. We stuff it. DONT. Any man treated so badly wouldn't feel an ounce of regret over his anger.

Fight for what's YOURS. Even Ghandi fought... So did MLK... They simply chose to fight for their territory in a way which worked at the time.

You gave the man his freaking Playboys for YEARS... While he "found" himself.