New or false hope?

[JulieH]

Tl2

You are right. Winning an argument is not important. The marriage is.

Thank you. In order for this to work, I have to change my mind set. I have complained in the past that I learned all these new tools but had no one to use them on. It seems like I might have an opportunity to use them again. So now I need to reread the instructions.

I am mad that he has stonewalled again, but realize I might have to be patient back off and let him approach.

Court was upsetting and humiliating. It will only get worse if we don't choose to fix marriage. Divorce is devastating. I think him and his mother did not realize how so. I was told by his mom "a lot of people get divorced now. Sometimes it's the best option" and then in next sentence told how she does not want us to divorce. I was told by husband " this is better for kids" They were expecting us to all just be Friends and share holidays together and that he would have this great freedom he never had in the marriage. Sadly they are both losing some very important bonding opportunities with the kids every day that goes on. Now he will lose money. He chose this and his mother enabled it. I don't know why I was feeling guilty yesterday.

My advantage... No rush. Financially things are easier for me, upsetting to him. I am getting more of a break then ever before. only thing that really [censored] is my living arrangement.