My wise friend JellyB posted some great insights and questions on my last thread just as it reached the magic number 100. I have copied parts of it here to prime the therapeutic pump.
J said "I am hoping to see what you do with anger that isn't all old school (past behaviour) yelling, but isn't shut down and not dealing with it either - which is the Coey (co-dependants way)."
I never realized but I was in a state of co-dependent anger. The tentacles to co-dependency are far reaching.
J said "As Pho rightly said, the WS feels this energy of waiting and they know that their S is still fully engaged and invested. I do wonder if this is why you don't see a happier more contented W. Because she has not yet felt your detachment. Or potentially W and Mutatio are little more than mirroring back and forth the same emotional tone - on the outside cool, polite aloof, but underneath quietly angry or raging about the state of the nation. Is this a stalemate?"
I think your on to something here dear Jelly. I must reflect on this some more.
J said "I know doing what works is DBing, but what if doing what works is maintaing the status quo."
Jelly, you are brilliant!
Maybe Roiste's words are worth pondering.
Roiste's thoughts are like yours sage and I ponder them and your status quo question today.
Thank you Jelly, your kindness and support are greatly appreciated. Your soul is lovely light, be well dear friend
