Someone please help me with a plan of action!

[Cherry]

I agree, keep doing what you're doing. I successfully db'd earlier in the year , but since seem to have slipped back into the situation. It's unbelievably hard, my h is in the house, but so distant. So near yet so far.

On darker days I find reading the lighthouse story helps, we need to be steady, stable. Sometimes I think they honestly don't know what they want or need. They're on some crazy train on their own. But if you seem happy, you're gonna get her thinking. She will wonder what is it that makes you so happy- because right now, it's not her.

In a sense, the positive spin is to think that we have been given a chance to regenerate ourselves into a new and improved version. And find happiness in ourselves.

Not easy, really not easy. Especially if your default, like mine, is to problem fix. Right now moods go from wanting to hold him so tight- to beating him with a blunt object!!