Quite simply pink if he wants to be around he will be so.
Nothing you say will stop him, or make him stay away. He's not there yet and may never be. So just keep moving forward with the things you need to for the d and separation.
Sounds like the nc plan was working in a way, he had to do that whole walk thru to get your attention.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26