[Sotto]

Hi Bright, if it helps at all, my approach in the D process has been to focus on a fair settlement. In our situation (living together/married for 8 years) that looks like total assets minus what he brought in (he gets) minus what I brought in (I get) and we divide the rest equally. How would that picture compare to what he has suggested?

I also had the internal struggle around potentially settling for less. He had suggested I receive much less. Part of my struggle was that what I get, my SS doesn't (in my mind.) However, I invested a great deal in our R and I've just taken the view that this is how things work and these have been his choices not mine. And I just go with the advice of my L.

I agree about the heart and head thing. This is a business process, the outcome of which impacts on your own living standard in years to come. So, I think wearing your business head is the best way to go.

Take care xx