I am so proud of you for all you do for your kids. You get all the affection here because we can see what a good person and dad you are.
Hope that the LC and your attention got D14 in a better place and she is feeling better. I can't even grasp what it is for D14 and D11 having to endure that their mom left them, even if she is still around.
I am so sorry for them, kids that did not ask to be born and now need to be forced to live this kind of situation. I will always break my heart.
The good part is that they have you and you are paying attention in each individually. You are awesome RD. God bless you.