Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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Well, Another 2 steps forward, another 2 steps back.

I had Friday off, so I worked around the house, and was excited for us having a 'date night'. I worked on cleaning up our clothes closet, and worked on cleaning our bathroom, which really needed it.

We headed out ok, but during our date night, which started with a 'date night' bible study, I saw my wife grow distant, like she usually does when talking about feelings, about emotions, and marriage. You could tell something was wrong, and when we were supposed to talk to each other about making 'bid' - aka love deposits - I had some great ones that I like to hear from her - but she couldn't come up with any, aaying this is 'difficult'.

After leaving, I asked a few questions, but the conversation became strained, and the night started to take a bad turn. I really need a new phone, so we stopped with about 45 min to spare to work on picking one up - I had all the particulars done beforehand, so I was hoping that's the time it would take. As soon as we get there, my wife tells me 'we don't have time for this right now', insisting we leave to go to dinner, which was just up the street.

Needless to say, I didn't take it well. After yelling, and almost walking home the 2 miles, we had no dinner, no discussion, and my wife was back at Facebook on the computer as soon as we got home. The kids were really confused, since we were supposed to be home 2 hours later.

It keeps coming down to my wife saying 'just give me time', in which that is code for 'don't ask any questions about the M, or her feelings, or really anthing to do with us'.

I'm really hurt, and have seen myself get angry again tonight. I'm headed to bed soon, with a new bed in the basement, and even all my books and alarm down in the basement now. My wife just isn't ready to realize how much hurt I have in my heart, and that all this supposed 'time' she needs is really just letting my heart out of wanting to be in the M. I told her I need the connection, but without any movement towards emotional and physical needs, I'm finding it hard to move forward towards MR.

Any adivice for me? Ugh, back to square one.