WW is onboard with trying to save the M

[JGuy]

Please read this post. It's a little long and rough but check it out.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...861#Post2471861

Any similarities?

Wow, yes Zeus... my pattern is very similar! Thanks for reaching out. I will read more of your thread.

With my W I didn't really have a destructive pattern quite like the one you describe. For years I was pretty tuned out to just how unsatisfied she was. As soon as she dropped the bomb by admitting the affairs she'd had, my comfortable pattern of letting my inner child be attached to her became an enormous source of pain as I suddenly had to grapple with the realization that the woman who I thought I could trust and be so vulnerable with was in fact betraying me and doing the most emotionally hurtful thing that anyone could ever do to their spouse. It was like a complete re-enactment of the abandonment I experienced as a child. It's like having to deal with two traumas at once. The current trauma of my W cheating on me, as well as a much deeper, older trauma that I never healed and didn't even realize was there.