WW is onboard with trying to save the M

[JGuy]

Thanks for the replies, Azzork and Pho. I guess what I have to do feels very counter-intuitive, but I suppose that's what faking it till I make it is all about. Anyhow, I think this helps to at least give me a compass.

The one thing that seems to be working is reaching that state of grace that is so elusive. So, I suppose I can focus on doing what gets me there... breathing, slowing down, feeling my pain and just being with it.

I can appreciate that the psychology explanations aren't necessary when at the end of the day all that matters is I do what I need to do.

I added the book Pho suggested to my wishlist on Amazon... will check it out! Another one I have found very helpful is Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul.

I think Azzork you are right. I really just need to focus on saving myself first. That is my best shot at saving my M, indeed.