New or false hope?

[JulieH]

Zues, just read your letter. That was a good idea. I Wish I remember exactly what was said.

I Don't think I ever validate husband. We always just argue and grow angry. My husband even said, this issue is just cyclical. We can't come to agreement and just keep trying to get each other to understand our feelings instead of trying to understand each others.

I feel sad because i feel like I can't get it right and just end up with regrets. It keeps getting worse.

He feels humiliated and feels like I was treating him like a dead beat dad by bringing him to family court. he is not a dead beat dad but he was not contributing fairly and I felt I had no other recourse. I could have written him a letter and asserted myself better from the beginning. but instead I built up resentment. I was also convinced things were over and he did not want to work on reconciliation at that time.

How could going to court not bring out anger and harsh. I should have been prepared. I was doing ok until he fought over a few hundred dollars and then I just could not keep from commenting