I should have been clearer. I don't think my wife would ask to have the om over. I'm worried her parents would.

Part of what clued me into the early was that the om, a friend of ours for years was suddenly sucking up to my w's parents. And doing odd favors like washing their car for them. Basically, he was acting like he wanted to date them

Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12;
S10 and S6
BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015
EA dissolved 12/2016

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou