Nooooo....I was just having a general DB marital recovery strategy discussion. I'm not suggesting you do any of that. You've made your position clear. I wish you'd have discovered her affair early on and you could have fought a battle with full knowledge of the entire battle field. I forget, were you the guy I posted to saying that I bet her affair is with someone at work that was either married or his career would be hurt if the affair was revealed? I think that was before Cadet was a mod and my posts would sometimes take days to get through.
I agree that your 180 plan was to be NOT neglectful and I so appreciate seeing you say that. I usually see it presented here to a begging chasing betrayed husband as they need to 180 THAT behavior, and yes, to a point begging is counterproductive but for most men the full 180 isn't "act like you are fine with what they are doing" because that's just a continuation of their prior uncaring behavior. To ignore them hoping they somehow will end up chasing you is just not how men and woman ever interact. Men pursue the objects of their affections.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
