The Next Day...

[mahhhty]

Slightly depressing previous post... but here is some Coach knowledge for you.

I have a small, very solid core of people who I consider to be my friends. If any one of them betrayed my trust, or stuck a knife in my back, they would be off the friend list. Gone. It's just that simple.

Yep that's what seperates fear from love - trust. That faith that the other has my best interest at heart. Faith, you need it to believe. Believing is stronger that feeling or thinking.
So you need trust in your own actions, what I am doing is good for me regardless of the outcome.
That get's to Thinkers point of having confidence (loving yourself) enougth to be fearless. So the idea of being friends is to restablish the trust thru your actions.
The WAS has felt and is as hurt as the LBS is. We dehumanise them by using words like - script, WAS, fog, MLCers, cake-eaters. Not all of their behavior is honorable at times but we married a person who we vowed to love, honor and cherish througth sickness and health.
As a DBer you are called to lead thru this time. That is honorable, strong, loving, and wise.
People will let you down, we will be filled with doubt and feel forsaken. Faith is a simple idea but hard to put into practice. Forgiveness is a powerful weapon in the love arsenal. If you ever had to ask for forgiveness and then receive it then you get the power of it. I wouldn't be so quick to just check a fellow human off my list.
My W showed me a funny cartoon just yesterday. A woman was at the Pearly Gates and St Peter says to her, "You never colored outside the lines but you sure talked about everyone else when they did."
Cheers