Hi Vise82 Nice to see subtle positive changes in the dynamic.

Do what works....try something, a touch?, note response and act? Try her Love language? not in a pursuing way, just softly and subtley..

Back off if she rebells...continue if positive. slowly, slowly.

My sitch is similar with in house separation and W mellowing/softening over the last few weeks. Am I strictly in the friend zone? Perhaps and probably, but its a helluva lot better than being resented, disrespected, etc.

My W's EA? Not sure what is going on other than phone calls on her way home via carphone - she probably rings him for 'a laugh' but still uses me for support when needed. i.e. her Fathers illness, W's problems with weird bloke in gym, her guilt and worries over S11, she is also asking for more favours - less rebellion, less trying to be super single mom.
The favours are the usual stuff I would be asked to do as a husband, give her a lift to garage, railway station, etc

Xmas is always our special time and I'm trying to remind W what she will miss if we have full separation.

Last edited by isittoolate; 12/11/15 06:16 PM.
Me49 W45
T15 M13
S11 S8
BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16