Him knowing has complicated the potential road him added a few more bumps if you will.
Since I first found out I've been very good about not letting any of our mutual friends or family know, because I wanted her to have a clear road back to our relationship. If I blabbed to everyone she'd feel judged and vilified and it would be a much tougher road for her to come back. Since then I have only told one childhood friend and my former boss. I guess part of why I wanted to tell her parents was that I thought they would still love her unconditionally (so it would be "safer" for my W) and I wanted additional support. At this point I realize it was a very bad idea, if only because I was looking for someone else to do the dirty work of getting to the truth of everything. If that discussion is to be had, I should be the one leading it.
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My wife now says we have no chance of saving our M now that my buddy knows.
Don't believe anything she says. Just ignore it and keep improving yourself
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I dono about your W but mines pretty sloppy when it comes to hiding the A im sure it wont be long before her family figures out whats going on and thats without me saying anything.
That's a very good point. My W isn't doing a great job of hiding stuff (I even wondered if she left evidence on purpose so I'd see it). It might take a little longer for her family to figure it out though because we live over 15 hours away from them (by driving). Maybe they'd miss a lot of the little clues, or maybe it would become more obvious when she's talking about the OM and not me or the kids. Not sure, but I'm not going to worry about it, either.
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
