Mine essentially says the same thing about being friends. The whole "I hope we can be friends if we divorce" thing. I laughed at that one and told her that I didn't sign up for being buddies.
The thing is, there can be any number of reasons as to why they behave in this manner. Guilt and therefore trying to justify their actions, "feeling sorry" for the left behind spouse and try to use it to make the road easier, keeping "tabs", or whatever. No one knows their justification and if you were to ask I guarantee you would get a myriad of answers, depending on the time/mood/level of crazy/whatever. I am living proof of that.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
