As long as there is an OM, don't EVER ask for MC or agree to go to MC. This is the oldest trick in the book for WAW.

She will take you to MC and sit and tell the therapist all the problems with you. You won't agree with them and so you will be the bad guy. And then she gets to go on to an R with OM while feeling good in her mind that she tried.

Don't forget her conscience is killing her. She's breaking up a family. MC will help her feel better that the marriage is dead because YOU don't understand her (most common complaint from women).

No MC until there is no OM and some time passed to get OM out of her system. It's just like a drug and there needs to be a withdrawal period before you attempt to make an R with the addict.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017