Saw this in another thread. Figured Id reply here.
How many marriages that have EA/PA's actually succeed at reconciliation? Not sure. But Ive seen a few on here. And I figure that the people that come here are the MOST desperate, in the MOST dire of straits. So, Im guessing at least a fair percentage.
Been married 25 years and by all accounts a very good marriage. W has had some emotional baggage she has always carried with her and the AP has even more issues. Ill admit, I havent read your thread. But it sounds like you are blaming your W for this completely. Is that the case? If so, I dont see a lot of potential for R....
How long do these A's last and when does the WS finally come to a realization it's not what they thought? Ive heard that the average is around 6-9 months. But that doesnt mean a ton. Some are shorter, some are longer. And the shorter ones could have AP2 or AP3...
Mine has been in one for 10/11 months and there doesn't seem to be any daylight.
Are there any consequences that are visible to the WS while they are in affair? And when separated what consequences can they have. Inherently, no. But what kinds of changes has yours felt? Im not sure you should think of them as consequences, necessarily. That sounds like 'punishment'. And thats not really the intent. More, letting them dig their own hole. Maybe thats what you mean, but the word 'consequences' in your context feels odd.
Seems she can pretty much live her life the way she wants at this time. She has some income and but enough in savings she has tapped into so funds are not a problem for her but they are for him. He's on his 8th eviction from the same apt.complex since last 2013 til now last month. Works 6 months on then off all winter. Leave her and him to their finances. You just worry how it impacts you and your D. If she spends all her savings, that isnt REALLY your problem...
