I made it over the last hurdle - having my hostile ILs stay in my home while my W recuperated from her nasal surgery. The ILs left without much incident. I pretty much ignored them and they ignored me. Showed off my PMA as much as possible. The little interaction they had with me was petty and antagonistic. Also, my MIL told S13 that his school is a joke and he needs to get out and see the real world (whatever that is). He was so insulted. At least he saw my MILs true face. ILs shower money and gifts on my children, but have no idea how to love them and barely spent time with them. I know raliced and others have succeeded in maintaining relationships with ILs, but my ILs are really nasty people. I would hope to never have to see them again.
Now the next hurdle: I let my W sleep in MB on the ground floor temporarily, while she recuperated. In the meantime, I am sleeping in my D's room. However, it has been over a week and W has not vacated the MB. I asked her why and she said that her doc told her she cannot climb or go down stairs. The surgery was over a week ago. Frankly, I don't believe W when she says she can't return to her room. I think she is savoring having MB all to herself and will make a grab for even more time in MB. I want my room back. Any suggestions on how to approach it?
Also, it's official. My W officially filed for D 2 days ago. My L looked it up on the court website, but I have not been officially notified. It's funny: in many ways I need to move forward with D, and be physically separated from my W, for my own peace of mind and detachment process. I should be welcoming the filing. Yet, hearing the new was pretty devastating. I am trying to dwell on the past less and less, but I still can't believe it has come to this. nevertheless, I feel a lot better now that I have gotten this off my chest.
When I was in college, I took a course on the roaring 20's. I recall my teacher telling us about a new psychology movement (conscious autosuggestion - according to wikipedia) that had people saying the mantra "Every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better". The phrase just popped into my head after many years. It's true.
