Rd moving on 12

[Sotto]

Hi RD, it's been a theme on your thread - the fear of being hurt again, and putting up some barriers when your W comes forward a little. I can truly understand it BTW, and may find myself in that position at some point - who knows!

But I wonder if you might try the 'toe in the water' approach. So, when your W comes forward a little, not putting up a barrier, but offering a little gentle encouragement - nothing too dramatic, but a non-barrier. However, your heart remains hidden from her, and you are merely dipping your toe in that water. You are not yet sure if you would open that heart to her again - that's okay. Equally, I don't think you want to drive her away if she runs into walls any time she wants to get near to you.

I think it's an important question - given all present circumstances, what's okay for me? I know that for myself, if my H remains in a R with someone else, I don't want to see or speak to him. I would probably talk on the phone - but business matters and small talk and that's it. And I don't want to see him. What's okay for you?

xx