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[Mona52]

You are not helping him Mona if you give him the money. You are doing the opposite. He must learn to stand on his own two feet. Do not be his crutch. If you want the best for him this is what you have to do. Teach him to function as a responsible adult in society. All I have right now is straight talk, sorry if it appears harsh but today is a struggle.

Nothing about that was the slightest bit harsh. And by the way, I am the type of person who does well with harsh orders I would have thrived in the army.

I love "the correct way" to do things. I get annoyed when someone is teaching me something, and they cant decide the best way to show me because there are multiple ways.

That is fine if there are multiple ways, but show me the best way. I need the most correct way. I dont have to understand why. That is why I love MWD.

She gives you the best way to succeed. It may not work, I get that. But following the steps is the way to fix the issue.

I feel if I follow the best way, I will achieve the best results.

Last time I was single, I was broke. In my head, the best way to not be broke was to be a doctor, lawyer or a business owner. To do that, the best way was school. So I went to school. I did not achieve doctor, lawyer or business owner. But since I took the best way I knew, I landed in the middle of where I was and where I wanted to be. Which is a great place. I have a good job and 3 wonderful children.

So, if I follow the best advice from people on the board, even if it feels wrong, I will get the best results.

That may not mean my M restored. But at the minimum, I bet my H will be back in my life in some way. And I will not be in pain.

Sorry, I am babbling. My H has not responded, and I doubt he will, but it is raising my anxiety through the roof.