So, sadly, unless she decides to make us work she will never even see the growth I have made there.
I, too, am struggling with this exact thing. My W is convinced that we need to start over from the very beginning - as in no relationship at all - and see if anything can be built from there. My question, as like yours, is that until she decides to open her eyes, she won't see my growth, either. For the longest - and still to some extent - it has always been that everyone else can work on themselves and change but me. Our counselor has asked her about that and she has no real answer, either. Just how are we supposed to have growth if they wont participate? I know our growth is for us, but we all have admit that our growth is also to save our marriage. Kind of like a drunk who gets the ultimatum to sober up or the W is leaving - sometimes it takes that wakeup call to stir action that one never knew needed to happen...and some (as in my W) can't accept that. Ugh.
Last edited by Spiff69; 12/10/1502:03 PM.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
