She's thinking of leaving again2

[Mona52]

Hi Scrant
I would tell her no, but not explain in any way why you are saying no. Just say, "I cannot come, sorry." It is what you DONT say during this text message that will drive her up the wall wondering.

"What does he mean? Is he angry? Does he have plans more important than my bday? Is he done with me? Is he spending that time with someone else?"

She will not stop asking herself these questions. You know, because you cant stop from wondering what she is doing as well. Just because she is in an A does not mean she wont want you single.

Also, I wanted to chime in about the dreams. My H left me for almost 3 years once. The dreams never go away, ever. I hear some people say they stop after a wile, so maybe yours will. Mine never have.

But you can change your attitude about the dreams to make it easier to deal with them. I look at the dreams as a precious gift and I cherish them. I allow myself to replay them in my head when I wake up and throughout the day if I want. I know it is not reality. It is like thinking of a beach vacation or BACON. (or veggie bacon if you are a vegetarian).

So if your dreams do not subside, welcome them with open arms.