So, sadly, unless she decides to make us work she will never even see the growth I have made there.
If the growth is real, not dependent on her or what she does, and it is reflected in your behavior she will see some of it if she has time and space. You are around each other enough because of the kids that there are plenty of opportunities for her to see things. She may not choose to return to the M, but those changes are for you anyway.
