my wife requests space, deattached from me

[WillDo]

Thank you all for your responses. Really appreciate it. Don't have too much time but want to say that I already confronted her last year. Confronting again will mean pushing her more towards OM. I will look after myself and the kids. It would be snooping. Invasion of privacy if I reveal the secrets.

With "Act as if" I am keeping my emotions in place. I have a history of depressions. These were already ways to keep the good feeling floating.

Just hard really hard.