Time to Let Go.....How? (6)

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Let Go! I am of course struggling with this too. I believe we all are. I have to tell myself over and over again " she chose OM, I confronted her, was willing to work on M, willing to forgive and she continued to chose OM. She then moved onto a 2nd and most likely a 3rd. She continues to chose OM over me, our M, our children, our family. I can not control her choices nor will I be responsible for them. She is not the woman I M and I do not want her the way she is"

A couple weeks ago I had 3 days were I was really depressed. I finally slapped myself around a bit and started being thankful for everything I do have. WW is the only bad part of my life. I started listing all the upgrades I'm going to make to the house if/when our D finalizes and she moves out.

Our wives are gone. They will never be the same as they were and once we are through this process we probably wouldn't want them the way they were. You don't want her. You want what you thought she was. She wasn't. The wife you want would never have betrayed you. She may still become this person but that is in the future. Look ahead and not behind.

Let Go! Detach! Be a better you! Continue moving forward with your life. She may catch up.......she may not. If she doesn't you don't want her.